Finding your soul mate is the dream of nearly everyone. Regrettably, when you "find" him or her, and you break up, it can be devastating, leaving you bewildered, confused and angry. Relationships are fragile; when they end, it can be stressful and depressing, particularly when you're convinced he or she is the one.
Now, the breakup may have been for the best; your estimation of your potential soul mate may have been wrong, but that is for you to decide. But if you are convinced that he or she is "the one," then here are a few tips to getting them back.
First, don't appear needy. Don't give your ex the impression that you are desperate...All desperation does is breeds contempt, and you really don't want to promote that. It's a mark of weakness and will drive them away even more so. On the other hand, you want to give your ex the impression that you have moved on.
Don't stay home and mope -- party, socialize. And more importantly, don't try to make your ex jealous. Be strong, and let him or her see that you are doing fine. This will get their attention and make your chances of getting back together more likely.
Second, find out what lead to the break up. Learn from your mistakes. Don't beat yourself up over it. Besides, you can't go back in time and correct it.
Third, minimize communication. You both need to clear your heads and think about what happened. Don't let the breakup get you down. Don't obsess over it. By minimizing communications, you avoid the desperation factor; it allows you to avoid appearing needy and clingy. Make them miss you.
I realize you want to do everything possible to get your ex back, and not communicating much seem counterintuitive, but it has to be done to increase your chances of getting what you want -- your ex back.
Lastly, you want to come up with a plan. Determine when you want to meet again, where you want to meet, and what you are going to talk about. But don't plan your meeting too early, or too late, timing is everything. Take action. You know your ex, so plan accordingly. This will help you access the situation more rationally, and increases your chances of getting your ex back. - 15615
Now, the breakup may have been for the best; your estimation of your potential soul mate may have been wrong, but that is for you to decide. But if you are convinced that he or she is "the one," then here are a few tips to getting them back.
First, don't appear needy. Don't give your ex the impression that you are desperate...All desperation does is breeds contempt, and you really don't want to promote that. It's a mark of weakness and will drive them away even more so. On the other hand, you want to give your ex the impression that you have moved on.
Don't stay home and mope -- party, socialize. And more importantly, don't try to make your ex jealous. Be strong, and let him or her see that you are doing fine. This will get their attention and make your chances of getting back together more likely.
Second, find out what lead to the break up. Learn from your mistakes. Don't beat yourself up over it. Besides, you can't go back in time and correct it.
Third, minimize communication. You both need to clear your heads and think about what happened. Don't let the breakup get you down. Don't obsess over it. By minimizing communications, you avoid the desperation factor; it allows you to avoid appearing needy and clingy. Make them miss you.
I realize you want to do everything possible to get your ex back, and not communicating much seem counterintuitive, but it has to be done to increase your chances of getting what you want -- your ex back.
Lastly, you want to come up with a plan. Determine when you want to meet again, where you want to meet, and what you are going to talk about. But don't plan your meeting too early, or too late, timing is everything. Take action. You know your ex, so plan accordingly. This will help you access the situation more rationally, and increases your chances of getting your ex back. - 15615
About the Author:
Xavier Bach is a prolific writer that writes about relationships and other subjects. To find out more about how to get your ex back, go to secretstogettingyourexback.com and view the free videos on getting your ex back...See also the book the Magic of Making up
