Tuesday, December 30, 2008

It's Not Love- How to Tell

By Mary Bush

A romance ought to exist to make two people happy. As a psychic consultant that talks to people often about their love lives, it saddens me to perform psychic readings for people in new romances, that are only in some cases a few days old yet are making them feel wretched- still they're driven to carry on. Why as humans do we do this? I have to say that the women are often the ones 'putting up' with and assuming less than they merit from love, but man do this to.

Some tips to help you recognise when it's time to draw the line: If the romance makes you miserable/cry early on- my advice would be- move on. In the first bloom of a new relationship you are potentially seeing the very finest behavior that the other person is capable of. Just about all of us, will want a new partner to see the best of us, we will radiate and put our best foot forward. If your new beloved can't even be bothered to do this at the start- what are the odds they'll do so in months to come? If you find your new love 'keeps' you a secret, why this? Are they secretly still seeing an ex? Or desiring that the Ex will return and using you as a fallback? If so or you suspect this, walk the other way.

If they're doing so as they feel that their family somehow wouldn't approve of you- is that likely to change for the in the future? So many stick with a partner who wants only a quick thrill and no commitment, even when the person states this over and over again! If anyone tells you they dont wont commit, don't want a partner, etc...take them at their word and believe them. Don't hang around and be used and maltreated thinking 'hopeful' they will change... If they say they don't want a serious committed partnership- believe them- move on and find someone who does.

Married, still living with ex but we have separate lives etc. people...are not getable - accept that, disregarding what they profess otherwise, they're not available! If I had a penny for every time I have given the girlfriend/boyfriend of such an 'unavailable' partner a psychic reading and see their 'I still share a home with them but there's nothing in it) partner, still have a partnership of sorts with their ex, (their under the same roof ex) The trusting partner will state I'm wrong, there's nothing physical anymore, their hasn't been for years, they're just friends etc...I'm often saddened on their behalf to hear their shock and anger some months later when they call me to say, the ex is pregnant etc. by/with their ex....who naturally assured them that they no relationship going on.

You may find someone who is in this position and perhaps telling you the truth when they say they'll move out/divorce/leave etc. To protect yourself, simply wait till they've done so before you agree to get involved. This tactic naturally isn't ironclad however, it goes a long way in affording you protection from being duped or caught up in a situation where a couple will reconcile leaving you feeling angry, hurt and misused.

Your heart is precious- you should protect it with a few simple safeguards where possible. - 15615