It is hard to predict a woman, this is why making first date makes so exciting. Your heart runs wild from an agitation, or, perhaps a fear of being unfit, or maybe both things together. How you should make your first date so it will not be the last one? Where is this thin line which separates awkwardness from artistry and lead to attraction and not to repulsion? Here are some tips, which I hope will help you in this special business.
Tip 1: Plan everything ahead. All elements of your date program (yes, program), must be well thought. Moreover, it is better to have two options for her choice, just in case if she do not want to go with you to A, offer her to go to B. Rely on what you know about her: if you met her online, then knowing her profile and her own words from your online exchange will guide you. Still, remember that she has never seen you before, so dont try to freak her out: meeting in remote parks, cemeteries (even historical) and abandoned warehouses must be out of question. The meeting place must be nice, cozy and reasonably crowded. Museum (or something similar) would be a good choice, you will be surrounded by beautiful objects and you will have a decent chance to talk. From there you can offer next stop at a restaurant, or wherever you have planned the next stop.
Tip 2. By no means do not get late. According to modern psychology an opinion about person is formed over the first 15 seconds of a meeting. Do not let her to spend these 15 seconds just dully waiting for you. Women hate when someone makes them wait (I made this rhythmic by a coincidence, but it is still a great truth about women). No, you do not want her to stay there and think about those million useful things, which she could do instead of waiting for you. So, just do not be late, period.
Tip 3: Look neatly. Maybe I should not tell you that, maybe you are well aware of this simple fact, that when you are coming to a date (especially first date) you should look like you just jumped from a vintage postcard! Nevertheless, I have to mention this anyway, at least for the sake of those who forgot this simple rule. Women like when man looks like he took care of his appearance. Of course, everything counts and everything will be noticed: attire, shoes, hair, fragrance, even teeth and fingernails! Undoubtedly, she had spent several hours before mirror, making herself look special so she expects same from you! Do not get me wrong, you do not have to go for a day in a beauty parlor, just put some effort into it, so you will look attractive. Shower, shave, wrinkleless clothes and shiny shoes are those necessary elements which will make you feel good about yourself and help you to win those 15 seconds, which I have mentioned above.
Tip 4: Flowers and Flowers only! Rings of pearls (better saltwater), diamonds and everything made out of gold is what 98% of women want to get from you, but do not make this to happen on the first date. Just keep this in mind for the future. On the first date bring her one red rose (or, maybe a dozen, but not overdo it); so she will know that the man she just met has a great taste and is worth (hopefully) to be seen again.
Tip 5: Be gentleman. Just keep it old-fashioned way: open doors before her, let her first to the table, pool out a chair for her, etc. If you will have a chance helping her to take off (or put on) her coat: do not miss it, this is a chance to give her a hug, a small step in the right direction. So, the bottom line: be a gentleman, do not fear to be perceived as one: even a stubborn feminist will appreciate your efforts.
Tip 6. Give her as many compliments as possible. This is something that is expected from you, and you do not want to disappoint her. After introduction tell her how great she looks. Do not afraid of being banal: in this part your effort will be always appreciated. Besides, giving compliments is fun and a great field for your creativity, so do not be shy to explore it!
Tip 7. Listen more than talk. There is no doubt that she is curious about you and there is a plenty of things which she wants to find out. However, it is very likely that even more she wants to tell you about herself. So do not disappoint her, let her speak and help her. Simple nodding from your side will not be enough: keep saying briefly: Yes; Sure, How interesting; Is that right?, etc. Eventually there will be your turn to speak, find some way to return the ball to her field, and while it is still in your hands, by no means mention your past loves, problems at work or with your health and any religious issues. Find the topic of mutual interest and let her develop it. Your good sense of humor will be a big plus. And just keep in mind that you need to save a lot for talking at your next date with her, which will surely happen if you would follow these simple tips. - 15615
Tip 1: Plan everything ahead. All elements of your date program (yes, program), must be well thought. Moreover, it is better to have two options for her choice, just in case if she do not want to go with you to A, offer her to go to B. Rely on what you know about her: if you met her online, then knowing her profile and her own words from your online exchange will guide you. Still, remember that she has never seen you before, so dont try to freak her out: meeting in remote parks, cemeteries (even historical) and abandoned warehouses must be out of question. The meeting place must be nice, cozy and reasonably crowded. Museum (or something similar) would be a good choice, you will be surrounded by beautiful objects and you will have a decent chance to talk. From there you can offer next stop at a restaurant, or wherever you have planned the next stop.
Tip 2. By no means do not get late. According to modern psychology an opinion about person is formed over the first 15 seconds of a meeting. Do not let her to spend these 15 seconds just dully waiting for you. Women hate when someone makes them wait (I made this rhythmic by a coincidence, but it is still a great truth about women). No, you do not want her to stay there and think about those million useful things, which she could do instead of waiting for you. So, just do not be late, period.
Tip 3: Look neatly. Maybe I should not tell you that, maybe you are well aware of this simple fact, that when you are coming to a date (especially first date) you should look like you just jumped from a vintage postcard! Nevertheless, I have to mention this anyway, at least for the sake of those who forgot this simple rule. Women like when man looks like he took care of his appearance. Of course, everything counts and everything will be noticed: attire, shoes, hair, fragrance, even teeth and fingernails! Undoubtedly, she had spent several hours before mirror, making herself look special so she expects same from you! Do not get me wrong, you do not have to go for a day in a beauty parlor, just put some effort into it, so you will look attractive. Shower, shave, wrinkleless clothes and shiny shoes are those necessary elements which will make you feel good about yourself and help you to win those 15 seconds, which I have mentioned above.
Tip 4: Flowers and Flowers only! Rings of pearls (better saltwater), diamonds and everything made out of gold is what 98% of women want to get from you, but do not make this to happen on the first date. Just keep this in mind for the future. On the first date bring her one red rose (or, maybe a dozen, but not overdo it); so she will know that the man she just met has a great taste and is worth (hopefully) to be seen again.
Tip 5: Be gentleman. Just keep it old-fashioned way: open doors before her, let her first to the table, pool out a chair for her, etc. If you will have a chance helping her to take off (or put on) her coat: do not miss it, this is a chance to give her a hug, a small step in the right direction. So, the bottom line: be a gentleman, do not fear to be perceived as one: even a stubborn feminist will appreciate your efforts.
Tip 6. Give her as many compliments as possible. This is something that is expected from you, and you do not want to disappoint her. After introduction tell her how great she looks. Do not afraid of being banal: in this part your effort will be always appreciated. Besides, giving compliments is fun and a great field for your creativity, so do not be shy to explore it!
Tip 7. Listen more than talk. There is no doubt that she is curious about you and there is a plenty of things which she wants to find out. However, it is very likely that even more she wants to tell you about herself. So do not disappoint her, let her speak and help her. Simple nodding from your side will not be enough: keep saying briefly: Yes; Sure, How interesting; Is that right?, etc. Eventually there will be your turn to speak, find some way to return the ball to her field, and while it is still in your hands, by no means mention your past loves, problems at work or with your health and any religious issues. Find the topic of mutual interest and let her develop it. Your good sense of humor will be a big plus. And just keep in mind that you need to save a lot for talking at your next date with her, which will surely happen if you would follow these simple tips. - 15615
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