Friday, February 27, 2009

Dating Advice For Newbies

By Heiko Kapena

Dating advice is all over the internet, in magazines, books, newspapers and on TV. Dating advice is so easy to give that an eight-year-old even wrote a book about it. If youve read the book, however, youd be forced to admit that the eight-year-old boy does know what hes talking about " keeping it straightforward. The important thing in dating is to do just that and not complicate things.This is typical to chidren, they don't complicate things and keep it simple.

Leave your past in the past. Theres a reason its called the past. The first thing any giver of dating advise would tell you is that a clean slate is important for a date to go well. Boring your date with tales of exs misdeeds is a definite no-no. Dont let old hurts get in the way of new opportunities.

Always be natural and don't behave as somebody you're not. Sure, people like to put their best foot forward, and impress their date, but if they arent their usual selves, not only would they feel uncomfortable, but their date would pick up on the vibes as well.

Another useful bit of dating advise is to manage your expectations. If you expect too much out of one date, or of the person you are dating, its likely that you will be discouraged by the results. Even your date is just human, and first dates are notorious for disasters.

A frequently asked question is who pays? The consensus in dating advise is that he who invites, pays. But there are politically correct people who are convinced that Dutch is the way to go every time. Theres another school of dating advise thought though, that insists that the man pays for every date. The best thing to do in this case would be to settle for something that you and your date are both comfortable with.

Texting your date before meeting is also a good idea as it puts him or her at ease and allows you to discuss interests, hobbies in an informal and less tense environment than a first date would be. This can help you choose a setting for the date that you would both enjoy.

Basically, just remember, no matter how much dating advise you have, its all up to you in the end. No date is the be-all and end-all, so if one doesnt work out, never fear, there will be others. It doesn't matter if your first date wasn't successful because there are always plenty other people to date. - 15615

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