Guys love the thought of learning the tricks of the trade of the pick up artist. Learning that seducing a woman is a learned skill can have a profound, motivating impact on most men. But, like everyone including the master pick up artists, these men often don't think far enough down the road to wonder what will happen once they fall in love.
The possibility of falling for the woman they seduce is often ignored by student pick-up artists. Either they see love as something that will not happen to them, or they will make sure it does not happen to them. But it will happen. It's inevitable. Ask Neil Strauss, the author of the non-fiction best-seller, The Game. Better yet, read the book and the first scene you will find how love has rendered one of the book's leading characters nearly crazy! Bottom line is that love happens to all of us, whether we plan for it or not.
The challenge that most pick-up artists face, no matter how talented they are when it comes to seducing a woman, is how to keep the woman they have fallen in love with. This is especially true for those of us who have learned our game from books and courses. The thing with these materials, though, is that they don't teach us how to engage in long-term relationships. We naively fall into the trap of becoming an "alpha male" and at the time, we do not care whatsoever about how to appreciate a woman. And even if we do know how, we usually know very little about the ways we are to maintain the appropriate level of appreciation.
The point is, after seducing a woman, a lot of men don't know where to take their relationship. This is quite normal as all relationships experience an array of shifts. The first shift goes from "new and exciting" to "comfortable." This comfortable stage becomes a challenge because it implies little work is required to keep the magic alive. This is farthest from the truth. While it will be nearly impossible to replicate the high level of excitement that might have allowed the in-love man to seduce his love, there are techniques that will help keep the "love" alive.
One of the most basic things we can do is appreciate her. Recognize that we are not good at appreciation. While we typically think that appreciation needs to be a big-time effort, it need not be. Simply saying thank you for a failed dinner attempt or giving her a hug and kiss for nice, random token of her love will keep the mood positive. Because once we stop showing our appreciation, she will feel neglected and may start looking elsewhere for this type of attention.
A second vital tactic is excitement. This is more difficult in the comfort stage, but remember that it need not reach the same levels or grandeur as in the initial stages of the relationship. In fact, an occasional adventure once every two or three weeks can keep the relationship fresh enough to make her want to stick around for the "next" spontaneous event.
Changing from a man who is good at seducing a woman to a man who is great at keeping a woman happy is not necessarily an easy one. But the fact that love is now part of the relationship makes the change worthwhile. Just don't forget that the woman you seduced fell in love with you for who you were -- the exciting, adventurous man who made her feel like a queen. Keep that in mind and you will not suffer the fate of many other pick-up artists when it comes to the woman you fall in love with. - 15615
The possibility of falling for the woman they seduce is often ignored by student pick-up artists. Either they see love as something that will not happen to them, or they will make sure it does not happen to them. But it will happen. It's inevitable. Ask Neil Strauss, the author of the non-fiction best-seller, The Game. Better yet, read the book and the first scene you will find how love has rendered one of the book's leading characters nearly crazy! Bottom line is that love happens to all of us, whether we plan for it or not.
The challenge that most pick-up artists face, no matter how talented they are when it comes to seducing a woman, is how to keep the woman they have fallen in love with. This is especially true for those of us who have learned our game from books and courses. The thing with these materials, though, is that they don't teach us how to engage in long-term relationships. We naively fall into the trap of becoming an "alpha male" and at the time, we do not care whatsoever about how to appreciate a woman. And even if we do know how, we usually know very little about the ways we are to maintain the appropriate level of appreciation.
The point is, after seducing a woman, a lot of men don't know where to take their relationship. This is quite normal as all relationships experience an array of shifts. The first shift goes from "new and exciting" to "comfortable." This comfortable stage becomes a challenge because it implies little work is required to keep the magic alive. This is farthest from the truth. While it will be nearly impossible to replicate the high level of excitement that might have allowed the in-love man to seduce his love, there are techniques that will help keep the "love" alive.
One of the most basic things we can do is appreciate her. Recognize that we are not good at appreciation. While we typically think that appreciation needs to be a big-time effort, it need not be. Simply saying thank you for a failed dinner attempt or giving her a hug and kiss for nice, random token of her love will keep the mood positive. Because once we stop showing our appreciation, she will feel neglected and may start looking elsewhere for this type of attention.
A second vital tactic is excitement. This is more difficult in the comfort stage, but remember that it need not reach the same levels or grandeur as in the initial stages of the relationship. In fact, an occasional adventure once every two or three weeks can keep the relationship fresh enough to make her want to stick around for the "next" spontaneous event.
Changing from a man who is good at seducing a woman to a man who is great at keeping a woman happy is not necessarily an easy one. But the fact that love is now part of the relationship makes the change worthwhile. Just don't forget that the woman you seduced fell in love with you for who you were -- the exciting, adventurous man who made her feel like a queen. Keep that in mind and you will not suffer the fate of many other pick-up artists when it comes to the woman you fall in love with. - 15615
About the Author:
Daryl Duke offers an e-course for budding pick-up artists free of charge at SeductAnyWoman.com. His course isn't just about the pick-up. It teaches how to Find, Attract, and Keep the right woman.
