In online dating, one of the most important tasks next to preparing personal profile is writing the first message to your prospective match. Here is some advise on how to make it well.
Choice of a candidate Be very selective, only those people whose profiles attracted your attention are worth any further effort. Keep in mind, you are looking for a multi-thousand pool of potential dates, with hundreds of newcomers every day, so if you will fail to reach one person, you will succeed with another. Moreover, even if you are getting into a promising development with one candidate, keep seeking and do exchange with others. When you will get into some real relationship, it will be better for you if you will have your options.
Challenge of first message All we want from our first message is to get an answer, and yet, even this seemingly easy thing is not always happens. Why? What makes other people to ignore our call even without any formal acknowledgement? Are we sounding too boastful, or too boring, or what?
If your message is not answered, never allow yourself any hard feelings, the network is too big for getting distracted by such things. For the same time, always work on improvement of your writing. Develop your own, unique style, be creative and sincere, avoid anything which may sound too trivial and hence boring. Your message will be much more efficient if it will be written in the form of conversation.
Key features First and foremost: your message must be written for each candidate individually! Everyone can tell a generic letter: it is only about the author, it has no word about addressee. So, you have to reflect on your perspective date profile, you have to tell what exactly turned you on there. The aim of your first message is to start a conversation around some common interests, so you have to ask your candidate specific, his (or her) profile-based questions! And, of course, you have to tell a bit about yourself.
Regarding the toneIt is OK to flirt and tease (lightly) your addressee in the first message, but please, avoid anything which may be perceived radical. Not a word about sex, no claim that you are his (or her) perfect match. Seeing someone personal profile is not enough for making such claims. Keep the tone of your first message light and relaxed, almost as if you are introduced to a new business colleague.
Few more tips If you will not hear back from her (or him), it is quite likely is that your letter was not just good enough. Do not give up, try again and always keep in mind that it is unlikely that you are the only one who is writing to this person. This should encourage you to make your letter outstanding, compelling your candidate to reply! Feel free to add some element of a mystery to your message, ask questions, try to answer them for him, or her. And, if you will succeed and dialogue will ensue, never get dragged into a long online exchange, try to move to an offline date as soon as you can, because this is your purpose, this is why you have started all that in the first place! - 15615
Choice of a candidate Be very selective, only those people whose profiles attracted your attention are worth any further effort. Keep in mind, you are looking for a multi-thousand pool of potential dates, with hundreds of newcomers every day, so if you will fail to reach one person, you will succeed with another. Moreover, even if you are getting into a promising development with one candidate, keep seeking and do exchange with others. When you will get into some real relationship, it will be better for you if you will have your options.
Challenge of first message All we want from our first message is to get an answer, and yet, even this seemingly easy thing is not always happens. Why? What makes other people to ignore our call even without any formal acknowledgement? Are we sounding too boastful, or too boring, or what?
If your message is not answered, never allow yourself any hard feelings, the network is too big for getting distracted by such things. For the same time, always work on improvement of your writing. Develop your own, unique style, be creative and sincere, avoid anything which may sound too trivial and hence boring. Your message will be much more efficient if it will be written in the form of conversation.
Key features First and foremost: your message must be written for each candidate individually! Everyone can tell a generic letter: it is only about the author, it has no word about addressee. So, you have to reflect on your perspective date profile, you have to tell what exactly turned you on there. The aim of your first message is to start a conversation around some common interests, so you have to ask your candidate specific, his (or her) profile-based questions! And, of course, you have to tell a bit about yourself.
Regarding the toneIt is OK to flirt and tease (lightly) your addressee in the first message, but please, avoid anything which may be perceived radical. Not a word about sex, no claim that you are his (or her) perfect match. Seeing someone personal profile is not enough for making such claims. Keep the tone of your first message light and relaxed, almost as if you are introduced to a new business colleague.
Few more tips If you will not hear back from her (or him), it is quite likely is that your letter was not just good enough. Do not give up, try again and always keep in mind that it is unlikely that you are the only one who is writing to this person. This should encourage you to make your letter outstanding, compelling your candidate to reply! Feel free to add some element of a mystery to your message, ask questions, try to answer them for him, or her. And, if you will succeed and dialogue will ensue, never get dragged into a long online exchange, try to move to an offline date as soon as you can, because this is your purpose, this is why you have started all that in the first place! - 15615
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