Monday, January 26, 2009

Mistakes With Your Ex? - 5 Fatal Mistakes To Avoid With Your Ex

By Zena P Truscott

Mistakes with your ex that you can make after a break up can make it very difficult to regain lost ground and start to mend the relationship again. If you want to give yourself the best chance of making up you must use strong discipline indeed to not make the "Fatal 5" major mistakes that most people make with their ex!

The Mistakes you must not make with your ex are:

*Major Mistake with your Ex : - Apologising over and over again for everything that has ever happened between y has to stop. Continually apologising is a major mistake with your ex because it makes the apology look insincere. The fact is you have broken up over something and the situation is serious. Stop apologising for anything and everything. It just will not mean anything right now. If you have done something you need to apologise for, there will be a time and a place later

*Major Mistake with your Ex : - Promising to change for good this time is another statement you should not be making . You are who you are. Making wild promises about becoming someone different will not save your relationship, and is another of the major mistakes with your ex that you should carefully avoid making.

*Major Mistake with your Ex : - Trying to convince them you are their one true love, the love of their life. They dont think so at the moment! This is a major mistake to make with your ex because among other things it makes you look weak and grasping at straws. No one needs to be told who is the love of their life! Human nature decrees we like to come to that conclusion by ourselves!

* Fatal Mistake With Your Ex: - Don't try and blame your ex for the break up. Denying you had any part to play in the break down of your relationship is a major mistake to make with your ex. No doubt you have both done and said things you should not have during the break up, to get to the situation you are now in.

* Killer Mistake With Your Ex: - Stop Begging them to take you back! Begging is like emotional blackmail and will have the effect of suffocating the emotions of your ex. You will not gain any respect for being emotional and clingy so do not use this tactic !

Now that you have read the list of "Fatal" mistakes you can make after a break up, how many are you making? Behavioural statistics shown that using tactics such as the five listed here will not successfully heal a relationship. In fact, they usually drive an ex further away.

Using tactics like the killer mistakes above only make your break up more certain. What you need to use instead are positive moves that act to rebuild your relationship on firmer foundations.

Most people turn to the highly respected Magic Of Making Up System for guidance and step by step help to mend a broken relationship. Believe it or not, all the common sense advice listed here come from the program itself. The Magic Of Making Up is a proven step by step process for mending broken relationships and keeping them fixed.

The Magic of Making Up has helped over 6000 people mend their broken relationships and get back together. If you would like to learn more about the program please follow the links below to the Magic of Making Up web pages that deal with mending broken relationships. These pages also include the opportunity to listen to an inspiring video presentation from the author of The Magic of Making Up.( His name is T.W. Jackson and he has a wealth of experience in helping people just like you mend relationships after a break up.) - 15615

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