Just as there are social conventions at a party, there are guidelines to texting.
Rule 1: Never text to dodge a real conversation
Many guys see texting as a safer arena for contacting woman than calling them. This is understandable, but unacceptable. If you've just met and number closed a woman, then your next goal is to get a date. The likelihood that you will set this up with her via text message is lower than if you call her and build more familiarity verbally.
If you text because you're scared to talk to her, how will you ever speak to her in person?
Rule 2: Add to her day, don't be needy
Examples of value seeking texts are "What's up?" or "What are you doing tonight?" These texts come off as needy, invoke no emotion in the woman you are contacting, and don't portray anything about your personality.
Check out these examples that are proven to be more successful:
"I just saw a guy wearing a fanny pack and it reminded me of you"
"Hi nerd! I'm sure you're operating at a level of 100% nerdiness today :) "
Rule 3: Avoid sending too many messages!
She may be the only thing on your mind, but don't let her know that. Don't scare the bunny away! Text once, and if she replies, you may do so. But if she hasn't, then wait until the next day before trying again.
Also, give it some time after you receive a text before you respond. Remember being non-needy always equals sexy because it conveys that you must have other dating options in your life.
If in doubt, follow her lead. If she texts instantly, do the same, but if she text after 15 minutes, then do the same.
Bonus Texting Tool: Use the text to familiarize her
Right after you get her number, send a text while you're standing next to her. It is funny in itself and double points if you send a funny message or inside joke. Give these a whirl...
"You have my number but please limit yourself to one per day ;)"
"Who is that really hot guy standing next to you?"
If, after texting her, she saves your number, take that as a definite indicator of interest. More importantly, when you call her later, your phone number will pop up and be familiar. This makes her much more likely to answer. - 15615
Rule 1: Never text to dodge a real conversation
Many guys see texting as a safer arena for contacting woman than calling them. This is understandable, but unacceptable. If you've just met and number closed a woman, then your next goal is to get a date. The likelihood that you will set this up with her via text message is lower than if you call her and build more familiarity verbally.
If you text because you're scared to talk to her, how will you ever speak to her in person?
Rule 2: Add to her day, don't be needy
Examples of value seeking texts are "What's up?" or "What are you doing tonight?" These texts come off as needy, invoke no emotion in the woman you are contacting, and don't portray anything about your personality.
Check out these examples that are proven to be more successful:
"I just saw a guy wearing a fanny pack and it reminded me of you"
"Hi nerd! I'm sure you're operating at a level of 100% nerdiness today :) "
Rule 3: Avoid sending too many messages!
She may be the only thing on your mind, but don't let her know that. Don't scare the bunny away! Text once, and if she replies, you may do so. But if she hasn't, then wait until the next day before trying again.
Also, give it some time after you receive a text before you respond. Remember being non-needy always equals sexy because it conveys that you must have other dating options in your life.
If in doubt, follow her lead. If she texts instantly, do the same, but if she text after 15 minutes, then do the same.
Bonus Texting Tool: Use the text to familiarize her
Right after you get her number, send a text while you're standing next to her. It is funny in itself and double points if you send a funny message or inside joke. Give these a whirl...
"You have my number but please limit yourself to one per day ;)"
"Who is that really hot guy standing next to you?"
If, after texting her, she saves your number, take that as a definite indicator of interest. More importantly, when you call her later, your phone number will pop up and be familiar. This makes her much more likely to answer. - 15615
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