Catch her attention. In order to make it, you have to write your profile beyond ordinary. There is no recipe for everyone on profiles, it is you who is presented there, so the creativity is all yours. Everyone can write: "male, Sagittarius, seeking an attractive...", but only you can invent something special, which represents you and is not a boring stereotype.
Details are important However, it is a bit different case with your personal profile. Indeed, your task is to intrigue her, so if she would like to know how badly are you addicted to caffeine or what you can see from the windows of your office, you will have a chance to tell her later. Your personal description must be brief and to the point: list only the main features of your character and what you are looking for in another person.
Only You! When it comes to description of your match, writing in a third person is a bad idea. I will give you an example. "I am looking for someone special, who appreciates order in her life, but when some disorder happens, she takes it easy with a good sense of humor. If she is caught under warm summer rain, she just laughs and enjoys the opportunity to get a little wet." Or, lets say instead "You are special and I am looking for you! You appreciate order in your life, but when you are caught in a warm summer rain you just laugh and enjoy an opportunity to get little wet. If I have got this right about you, please, let me know, I want to hear from you!" You are writing about a person you have never met, and still she will feel that this is about her. In a first example, even if this is about her and she will read it, she still may not feel that way, because it is written in a third person, about some other girl. As a result you may never hear from her. Considering that you have worked hard on your profile and manage to express an essence of your perfect match, you dont want this to happen.
Make her smile. You are not writing this profile for job promotion, so any joke, humor, trick will do you only good. If you have a good sense of humor, make sure that she would know about it from the start.
Mystery. Never forget that you are writing to a woman. Some element of mystery and intrigue will stir certain emotional mechanisms of her soul. Leave a part of your story untold, give her an opportunity to fill the blanks with her own imagination and feelings. Perhaps she will ask you some questions, and most certainly she will find you interesting. Remember: the purpose of your profile is to start a dialogue!
Careful with your exclusion list. The list of those who shall not attempt to contact you must be made with a certain caution. Offering your friendship to all females from 20 to 35 might be too silly, but it will not be much smarter to limit your list to blonde supermodels with Ph.D. in astrophysics. First, if requirements are too high, one can miss his perfect match just because she may think that the author of such profile suffers from some inferiority complex. Second, while nobody is looking for dating ugly ladies. Ladies, in their turn, even most beautiful ones, quite often tend to be displeased with themselves. So by posting too demanding profile one is risking to repel (and he will) someone who might be just his perfect match. You certainly dont want such thing to happen.
Your grammar. Yes, grammar is important. Correctly written text is usually taken as granted, text with grammar flaws will be noticed. You can write that you are lost and lonely in your Beverly Hills house, and you need someone to help you to fill at least half of its 8 bedrooms with kids and pets. If you will make a couple mistakes in your profile, your maturity and sincerity will be doubted, even if in reality you are mature and sincere person.
No to physical boast. By all means avoid any male self-advertisement (unless your aim is a 1-2 night relationship). There is no need to tell the world how is your stamina in the bedroom: you dont need any silly statements in your profile.
Truth, truth and nothing but the truth. Lie will be revealed sooner or later. Why should you tarnish possibly great relationship with a lie? Be honest with your profile and with the choice of your photos.
Brevity as virtue. True, so my tips are close to conclusion. A few final comments, though. Avoid any abbreviations and omissions in your profile. This is not a classified ad (even if you may feel this way), so you will be given enough space for expressing yourself. For the same time your reader, a woman, your potential date will not be interested in even chatting with you, if she will see untidy, half-baked profile. If she will notice some deficiency of attention in your own personal profile, be assured, she will conclude that this would be as well the degree of your attention to her. This is not good. Make your profile neat and concise, and you will get a plenty of winks. Good luck. - 15615
Details are important However, it is a bit different case with your personal profile. Indeed, your task is to intrigue her, so if she would like to know how badly are you addicted to caffeine or what you can see from the windows of your office, you will have a chance to tell her later. Your personal description must be brief and to the point: list only the main features of your character and what you are looking for in another person.
Only You! When it comes to description of your match, writing in a third person is a bad idea. I will give you an example. "I am looking for someone special, who appreciates order in her life, but when some disorder happens, she takes it easy with a good sense of humor. If she is caught under warm summer rain, she just laughs and enjoys the opportunity to get a little wet." Or, lets say instead "You are special and I am looking for you! You appreciate order in your life, but when you are caught in a warm summer rain you just laugh and enjoy an opportunity to get little wet. If I have got this right about you, please, let me know, I want to hear from you!" You are writing about a person you have never met, and still she will feel that this is about her. In a first example, even if this is about her and she will read it, she still may not feel that way, because it is written in a third person, about some other girl. As a result you may never hear from her. Considering that you have worked hard on your profile and manage to express an essence of your perfect match, you dont want this to happen.
Make her smile. You are not writing this profile for job promotion, so any joke, humor, trick will do you only good. If you have a good sense of humor, make sure that she would know about it from the start.
Mystery. Never forget that you are writing to a woman. Some element of mystery and intrigue will stir certain emotional mechanisms of her soul. Leave a part of your story untold, give her an opportunity to fill the blanks with her own imagination and feelings. Perhaps she will ask you some questions, and most certainly she will find you interesting. Remember: the purpose of your profile is to start a dialogue!
Careful with your exclusion list. The list of those who shall not attempt to contact you must be made with a certain caution. Offering your friendship to all females from 20 to 35 might be too silly, but it will not be much smarter to limit your list to blonde supermodels with Ph.D. in astrophysics. First, if requirements are too high, one can miss his perfect match just because she may think that the author of such profile suffers from some inferiority complex. Second, while nobody is looking for dating ugly ladies. Ladies, in their turn, even most beautiful ones, quite often tend to be displeased with themselves. So by posting too demanding profile one is risking to repel (and he will) someone who might be just his perfect match. You certainly dont want such thing to happen.
Your grammar. Yes, grammar is important. Correctly written text is usually taken as granted, text with grammar flaws will be noticed. You can write that you are lost and lonely in your Beverly Hills house, and you need someone to help you to fill at least half of its 8 bedrooms with kids and pets. If you will make a couple mistakes in your profile, your maturity and sincerity will be doubted, even if in reality you are mature and sincere person.
No to physical boast. By all means avoid any male self-advertisement (unless your aim is a 1-2 night relationship). There is no need to tell the world how is your stamina in the bedroom: you dont need any silly statements in your profile.
Truth, truth and nothing but the truth. Lie will be revealed sooner or later. Why should you tarnish possibly great relationship with a lie? Be honest with your profile and with the choice of your photos.
Brevity as virtue. True, so my tips are close to conclusion. A few final comments, though. Avoid any abbreviations and omissions in your profile. This is not a classified ad (even if you may feel this way), so you will be given enough space for expressing yourself. For the same time your reader, a woman, your potential date will not be interested in even chatting with you, if she will see untidy, half-baked profile. If she will notice some deficiency of attention in your own personal profile, be assured, she will conclude that this would be as well the degree of your attention to her. This is not good. Make your profile neat and concise, and you will get a plenty of winks. Good luck. - 15615
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